December 2018

Greetings Parents and Families!

Final exams for the semester are done.  The car is now packed to head home for the holidays and as students begin that journey home they may be feeling a bit stressed about what is to come.  The students have been away from home for several months now.  Mom and Dad have not been with them to enforce curfews or make sure the student is eating right or getting enough sleep.  And now, the student is stepping back into their position within the family dynamics.

Mom and Dad have also adjusted to a new norm.  They are not used to having the student in the house for more than a day or two.  Now, they are looking at having the student for a month and that may mean some big changes to their routine.

Just a few tips that might make the holiday transition easier:

  • Take in consideration that sometimes things do not begin to happen on a college campus until around 11:00 pm. Students need to respect that parents may not appreciate you coming in at 3 am.  This will have an effect on the parent’s schedules and they have become accustomed to their new schedule while the student has been away.

  • Students will most likely want to catch up with friends from home that attend other colleges or those who still live in the area. That is a great thing to do but be aware that parents have missed the student being at home and want to spend time together.  Try to compromise on these issues.

  • This goes for both students and parents.  Communicate your schedule and expectations.  This leaves little room for misinterpretation.  However, be willing to be as flexible as possible.

  • Try to limit time on technology. Do not sit with your face in your phone all the time.  Both students and parents need time to actually talk and catch up.  Suggest a “no phones” meal or “no technology” evening.

  • Take time to relax! Take care of yourself while you are home. 
  • Remember the reason for the break – Christmas! As we celebrate the birth of Jesus, let us also enjoy time with family and friends. 

Hopefully, this will be a wonderful time together for students, parents, siblings, and even extended family.  Be sure to exercise some self-care during the break so that you are refreshed and ready to begin a new semester.

 

Sincerely,

Cindy Wallace
Director of Counseling Services